2 John 1:1
1The elder, to the chosen lady and her children, whom I love in truth, and not I only, but also all those who know the truth,
The elder writes to the chosen lady and her children. Wesley: elect—that is, Christian. Kuria is a proper name, not an imperial “lady”; the title would not have suited apostolic simplicity. He loves her and her children in the truth, with unfeigned and holy love; not he only, but all who have known the truth.
Do not turn a greeting into a predestination treatise. Wesley’s elect here is an honorific for a Christian woman (and her household), not a treatise on unconditional choice. Neither side disputes this: she is addressed as belonging to the people of God in the truth. The letter’s weight is truth and love, not a fight over the word elect in a salutation.
Calvin did not comment this verse; later Reformed readers have taken the phrase either as an honored Christian woman or as a local church under a household name. In either case it is a title of honor for those in the truth, not a cue to unload Romans 9 onto a greeting.
Wesley agrees: elect names the addressee as Christ’s, loved in truth by the elder and by all those who know the truth. If the notes part at all, it is only the later habit of hearing elect as God’s choosing; this verse itself does not argue conditional versus unconditional choosing. Leave the greeting a greeting.